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MS symptoms subside nicely
but secondary gains get in the way.
http://www.emofree.com/.../multiple-sclerosis-MS-secondary-gains.htm
(MS symptoms and secondary not-get-well issues.)
By Sylvia S. Ross EFT-ADV
I am submitting this because like you, I believe the core-issues of illnesses are emotional issues. Emotional issues of my client Lori, who has MS, are: (1) heavy burden of responsibility & (2) financial considerations.
Lori's, MS started around the age of 10-11, according to her doctors, when she went from graceful to clumsy. At that time in her life she was given the tremendous responsibility of watching out for her younger sister, who was mentally challenged. Accordingly she had to forgo her growing up years, with children her own age and she is still, at 45, dealing with responsibility to her sister, who although she lives independently, she still needs care she can't provide for herself. She had a lot of issues around this and a great deal of anger, plus the fear of her father's death and all the responsibility of her sister falling on her shoulders, when that happens.
Lori had been in counseling for years. She is bright and articulate about her emotional trauma.
Her biggest physical EFT correction was her "heavy legs!"
She expressed that "she had stuffed, stuffed and stuffed feelings into her legs, for years" and we tapped on that for about 15 minutes.
She then smiled, got up and said the "Stuffed feeling was gone along with the heaviness." The true test was stairs, up to that point, she walked stiff legged and had to turn her feet outwards, to climb stairs. After, the EFT session, she could walk up stairs normally.
We also tapped for tiredness and she reported at the next consultation that she had gone on a field trip for 5 hours and didn't get tired! A major breakthrough for at the time of our first meeting, she was only able to stay awake for 6 hrs. total in a 24-hour period.
But, I just want to note: At the time we were working together, Lori was trying to get disability and Medicaid. She needed to be sick to have some income, because she couldn't work. She told me that in so many words She could handle where she was but she just didn't want to get any worse!
Lori desperately needed her disability money and Medicaid, and our sessions ended because of her need to be sick for her legal proceedings. I felt it was counter-productive, truthfully, as much as I understood where she was coming from. Her goal was not to deteriorate any further, and I am hoping we accomplished that.
Using EFT to increase blood platelet count. (Virus)
http://www.emofree.com/articles/platelet-count.htm
By Kshitij Negi, India
This remarkable use of EFT by Kshitij Negi from India brought a near-death Dengue Fever client to normal health in very short order. As you will see, one of the features of Dengue Fever is a very low blood platelet count. This translates into the inability of the patient to experience blood clotting. Normal blood platelet counts are in the 250,000-500,000 and this patient's count was at a near-fatal 30,000. Within a few hours of tapping (together with creative EFT approaches), the client's blood platelet count shot up to 106,000 and, within 2 weeks, it was back to 250,000.
I have been practicing EFT for more than 3 years now. ..
The patient, in this case, was my friend Tanveer.
I got to know of his illness during the week, but on Sunday morning I got to know that the situation was far worse than I thought it was. They were suspecting Dengue Fever, for which, apparently there is no cure in mainstream allopathic medicine. [There’s a short write-up on Dengue Fever at the end of this letter]
Doctors feared that he was on the verge of multiple organ failure; his liver and pancreas had swollen, there was water retention in lungs and abdomen, and his blood platelet count was threateningly low at 30,000 (normal is 250, 000 – 500,000). In short, Tanveer was on his death bed.
Note: A Platelet count below 100,000/volume is alarming - immediate medical attention is required. A Platelet count below 30,000 is fatal. There is fear of spontaneous bleeding, with renal failure and unconsciousness being other complications. A fall in platelet count prevents formation of clots - and this leads to hemorrhage - which results into both INTERNAL & EXTERNAL bleeding - once bleeding starts the situation is almost irrecoverable.
Since it was a “wait and watch” situation from the doctors’ side, I decided to apply EFT there. When I reached the hospital at 10 am, I found Tanveer too weak to tap for himself, and so I started with surrogate tapping on myself. In a couple of hours, Tanveer was himself asking to be tapped (he had been exposed to EFT before) and things became more effective. I tapped on him and, whenever he could not speak well, I also said the phrases aloud for him.
I used what I call, the “IS -- Going-Going -- Gone” approach.
Let me elaborate on this.
The first set–up phrase here is our classic EFT phrase , followed by one or two set-up phrases that describe the negative experience/issue going away/disappearing, followed by final statement of the desired condition (choice).
For platelets we tapped first with
“even though my platelet count is low, I deeply and profoundly love myself”.
This was followed with
“ I bless you and release you, this low platelet count in my blood” and
“I choose for myself, my platelet count fast rising to 150, 000”.
(The doctor had said anything between 100, 000 and 200,000 would be good and so the CHOICE of 150,000),
and finally,
“I accept my platelet count to be 150,000”.
We also did small variations and modifications for further rounds like
“…bless and COMPLETELY release whatever is causing this low platelet count”,
“ I choose my platelet count to be 150,000, right now”.
Acknowledgement is in order for Louise L. Hay, from whose book I picked this creative-compassionate phrase of healing
“…bless you and release you…”.
Similarly, we tapped for other areas, replacing “low platelet count” with “..this swelling in my liver”, “.. this swelling in my pancreas”, “..this water in my lungs” “..this water in my abdomen”;….
and “platelet count 150,000” with “perfectly normal lungs”, and so on.
I don’t really have to point out that I was this non-medico, using a combination of medical and layman language to set-up the phrases intuitively.
We did about 4 to 5 complete sets of rounds for each issue till 8 pm, by which time I was itching to know the effects of all this tapping. (Well, asking him to guess his platelet count at the end of the day wouldn’t be of much use, would it? … and unless you do a 0-10 intensity rating post-tapping, you don’t feel you’ve done anything at all, ..
The blood sample was taken, and guess what the platelet count was? 106,000.
Please note that no platelet/plasma was given to him externally, through IV or anything.
The doctors, in this case, were unaware of my EFT treatments with Tanveer.
They needed to explain Tanveer’s astonishing recovery, of course, and so simply said that he unexpectedly responded to their treatments. I did rounds for the next two days also. Gradually, all the indicators returned to normal. Tanveer went back to his work in a couple of weeks with a platelet count of 250,000.
I had another success in increasing the Platelet count of a Dengue patient within a month of Tanveer. We were able to reach 175,000 from 34,000 in 4 days. It took a different pace though – it stagnated around 35,000 on the first day of EFT (against the free-fall in the previous days), and then shot up dramatically from the second day. Some learning reinforcement there: for the same starting and end point, EFT could follow different pace and different path. BE PERSISTENT !
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“The fever is caused by a mosquito bite.
The Mosquito acts as a carrier of the Dengue Virus.
The virus's main affect is on the PLATELET production.
Normally the platelets in our body last for about 4 days and the body replenishes them when required. This virus DESTROYS THE BODY's CAPACITY TO PRODUCE NEW PLATELET's (during the period it is effective).
The PLATELET count for a normal person varies from 150,000 – 500,000 per unit volume. On getting infected the patients PLATELET COUNT STARTS FALLING. A PLATELET count BELOW 100,000 /volume is ALARMING - immediate medical attention is required. A PLATELET count BELOW 30,000 is FATAL. (There is fear of spontaneous bleeding, with renal failure and unconsciousness being other complications)
A fall in platelet count PREVENTS FORMATION OF CLOTS - and this leads to HEMORRHAGE - which results into both INTERNAL & EXTERNAL BLEEDING - once bleeding starts the situation is almost IRRECOVERABLE.
As is known to everybody VIRAL DISEASES HAVE NO CURE - you only TRY TO SUBSTITUTE FOR THOSE body functions that have stopped functioning. The ONLY cure is to CONSTANTLY REPLENISH THE BODY WITH PLATELETS. This requires giving BLOOD / PLATELET. Early detection and timely input will prevent HEMORRHAGE. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT HEMORRHAGE MUST BE PREVENTED BECAUSE ONCE HEMORRHAGE STARTS YOUR BODY PARTS WILL GET AFFECTED AND STOP FUNCTIONING and finally it leads to Death.”
Source: CES, Indian Institute of Science, Bangalore.
When Positive is Negative - Accepting Your Light.
http://www.emofree.com/articles/positive-negative.htm
by Steve Wells from Australia
Steve Wells from Australia properly points out that not only do we have negative "limits" to our flowering as human beings but that we also have disowned our positive points. Steve says, "For many of our clients, however, the most disowned parts are actually their positive points, their strengths and their brilliance."
Over the past few years I have been working in the area of peak performance and have also been on a personal journey of self-acceptance (See my original posts describing my self-acceptance journey at:
http://www.emofree.com/articles/WellsSelfAcceptanceSeries.htm )
Well what I have now come to realise is that Self-Acceptance and Peak Performance are actually two sides of the same coin.
In our respective practices and in our Advanced EFT Workshops, Dr David Lake and I have been focusing a lot of attention on treating the "dark side", those disowned parts of self that cause us so much trouble. For many of our clients, however, the most disowned parts are actually their positive points, their strengths and their brilliance. They have trouble acknowledging - and even recognising - their strengths, even though they easily recognise yet fight against their weaknesses.
Their life then becomes a daily battle where they suffer the push-pull of internal conflict between these warring parts (conflicting internal self-definitions). Churchill called this an "Internal Civil War." It is a war that we all must ultimately rise above if we are to live our lives as fully manifested human beings, where all parts of us are allowed to peacefully co-exist.
We have now come to see manifestation and goal setting as the process of bringing into the light the disowned parts of ourselves that are yearning for expression. These parts already exist inside us, but their fullest expression is blocked, often due to negative experiences in our formative years. Their suppression in early life, with the resulting fact that we were unable to manifest them fully, has left them clamoring for expression - however the negative associations we have picked up towards them leave us conflicted and suffering the internal push-pull ....
Many have said this -
It's the person you become in pursuit of your goals that really matters.
That person is even now alive within you!
And if you can remove the barriers to fullest expression of those parts, and allow yourself to be and become this person, then achievement of your goals occurs with ease - without any inner conflict (and a great deal less outer conflict - as within so without) - so that you are almost drawn to your goals, an attraction process occurs to assist you in their fulfillment. Congruency and alignment allows your energy to flow in the direction of goal achievement without any blocks.
Acknowledging your light, your beauty, and your strengths may be the greatest personal development experience of your life.
Recently, we have been experimenting with several processes that allow people to get in touch with their positive parts using EFT. I'd like to share just two of them here.
1. "Being" Goals.
Identify the ways you would like to be and become.
How would you like to describe yourself? Imagine that you are that person now. Hold in your mind an image of you being that person, then step into the image in your mind (If you do not easily visualise it isn't necessary to get an image, just to sense what it would feel like being there). Tap continually on the EFT points whilst holding in mind the intention of connecting with how that would really feel being that person.
Do some rounds of tapping on "Even though I AM that..."
(For example, "Even though I am a confident, powerful person I fully and completely accept myself."). As you tap, see yourself from within the future you, feeling and behaving as you would feel and behave if you fully embraced that quality. Continue to tap on the EFT points whilst holding the intention to feel the feeling of what it would really be like being in that future place manifesting that state.
When you start on this process you may find there is a great deal of resistance to getting into the desired state. In addition, there will almost certainly be negative tail-enders, which is Gary's term for the negative thoughts that arise to tell you that "You are NOT like that!" This is what you are using EFT to treat. Persist with holding the intention to connect with that success state in your mind whilst continually tapping. As you do, you will soon find that you can access the success state more and more easily. What you are really doing is accepting that state as a part of you (it already is!) and allowing it to be.
Ultimately, you may need to do some tapping on past events where you learned that you are not that person, or that you are a different sort of person, however we recommend you set aside some time to do this later. Use this time instead to stay focused on accessing the success feeling.
2. Qualities You Admire.
Identify some of the people you admire and list the qualities they have that you admire most. Realise that you cannot know those qualities without having them yourself. If you have a negative reaction towards accepting this it is because you have disowned these parts of yourself. This is usually due to past significant events where you learned that you are "not that".
Do some initial rounds of EFT on the idea of "Even though I have (this quality) I fully and completely accept myself." in preparation for some further rounds of EFT on those significant events where you learned you are "NOT THAT".
If the events where you learned this come spontaneously to mind whilst tapping, then focus on those past events one at at time and treat them using the "Tell the Story" or "Run the Movie" techniques as outlined on Gary's website (See: http://www.emofree.com/tutorial/tutorltwelve.htm ).
If the events don't easily come to mind, then ask yourself
"Where did I learn that I am (the opposite of this quality)?" or
"Where did I learn that I do not have this (positive quality)?"
Then conduct EFT on the memories that come up.
We recommend you do these exercises often.
As you connect with your success states, in that moment you are successful. And as you connect with your highest states of being on an ongoing basis, you create the conditions to allow the ongoing manifestation of those ways of being in your life.
9-Gamut procedure:
EFT for a stroke & other issues
http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/stroke-9-gamut.htm
by Suzanne Zacharia from South Africa
E-mail: suzanne@newageinternationaltraining.com
More on the 9 Gamut here: pages 22, 27, 33, 45 of the EFT Manual
--- Continuously tap on the Gamut point while doing each of the following 9 actions:
(1) Eyes Closed,
(2) Eyes Open,
(3) Eyes hard down right,
(4) Eyes hard down left,
(5) Roll Eyes in Circle,
(6) Roll Eyes in other direction,
(7) Hum 2 seconds of a song,
(8) Count to 5,
(9) Hum 2 seconds of a song.
The Gamut point is on the back of either hand, a 1/2 inch behind the midpoint between the little finger and the ring finger.
Right side of the brain is engaged when you hum.
Left side of the brain is engaged when you count.
.. the 9 gamut procedure has been dropped from the EFT shortcut and put on the shelf for use in cases where you become stuck. .. Suzanne Zacharia from South Africa has found a use for it in strokes and other cases .. the 9-gamut procedure is a "brain balancing" tool and thus would be a logical inclusion in issues where brain malfunction is involved -- such as strokes.
I love the 9-Gamut and have been promising my clients to write to you about EFT with the 9-Gamut. There are a few special advantages that I find happen when using the 9-Gamut. For this article, I would like to concentrate on its inclusion in the tapping to help conditions involving the nervous system and coordination.
Pat contacted me for EFT following a stroke.
I was due to give an advanced EFT workshop involving EFT for pain and mobility, so I invited her as a volunteer. Pat was 85 at the time of that first session. She subsequently had four more sessions with me. In total, the sessions were over a two month period.
Pat came in totally dependent on her walking stick.
Her issue started upon the death of her sister, when Pat got vertigo.
A year later, she had a stroke, after which she could hardly walk. Pat was close to her sister, whom she described as the left brain of the two, Pat being the right brain sister. Pat was the creative one. Her sister gave her advice and guidance about the logical things in life.
Because of this, we decided to challenge Pat's left and right coordination.
It had been less than six months since the stroke. Peter, a student in my class, said that this meant that there was still a good chance of developing neural connections to aid recovery. In the tapping, we bilaterally (both sides) tapped the EFT shortcut sequence ending it short at the Collarbone, as Pat said she did not like tapping on the Under Arm point.
Then we did the 9-Gamut, and we finished with the same sequence.
Pat tapped on herself following our lead, and we tapped on the Gamut point of the left hand in one round, then on the Gamut point of the right hand in the next, alternating each time. At first it was a challenge for Pat to tap in this alternate way. By the end of the session, she was doing it with ease. We tapped only relatively little in this two-hour session with great progress. Whilst I cannot prove it was the 9-Gamut alternate tapping that pushed the treatment forward, Pat did seem to progress better than my past similar experiences without the 9-Gamut. It also added an element of fun to the process.
We started working straight away on sister grief issues.
We did not ask for her level of intensity on this occasion, as it seemed inappropriate at this stage. Pat first had anger and resentment for her sister. The first issue that came up for the grief surprised me, but we worked with it anyway. Her sister, being the logical thinker, had suggested sending Pat's son to boarding school which was “disastrous”. So we tapped.
Even though she sent him to boarding school …
Even though I have this resentment towards my sister …
Even though I can't forgive her …
Even though I have lost my left brain …
Interestingly enough, this corresponded to the physical issue of Pat's stroke.
Then we continued tapping something like ...
Even though I have lost my sister, I choose to stand up on my own now.
We then moved onto the level of intensity scale.
We wanted to rate how challenging walking without a stick was to Pat.
Pat decided on a scale where 10 was the easiest and 0 the worst. She walked about 3 yards or just under 3 metres, turned, and walked back. She rated this a 3.5 out of 10, with 10 being the easiest, and found it hard to keep her balance. We tapped.
Even though it's hard to keep my balance …
Even though I feel I'm going to fall …
After each tapping, Pat would get up and walk the same walk again.
The numbers for ease of walking this went up to 4.5 then to 5.
Pat felt wobbly. And Peter noticed that her feet turned inwards when she stood or walked. In his experience this indicated that the piriformis muscles (part of the connection between hip and leg) were weak. Pat also found the turning around hard to do and less than a 5. Peter found this to be connected to the left shoulder being too high and the left leg seeming too long. We tapped some more.
Even though my feet turn in ...
Even though my left shoulder is too high ...
Even though my left leg is too long ...
Afterwards, the turn was a 5 too.
I gave the feet and shoulder statements to Pat for homework.
I got so excited, I forgot to write the 0-10 intensity level at the end of this session! Pat walked out without the use of the stick.
Pat continued to improve.
She went through a bit of a hiccup when a bus she was on suddenly braked and she consequently fell, but our last session took care of that.
The EFT in this treatment was fairly unsophisticated and mechanical.
No particularly sophisticated reframes, for example, and I stuck to the same Reminder phrase throughout each round. I believe the 9-Gamut did the extra work.
I also find the 9-Gamut a great help when treating clients with ADHD for example.
It helps them concentrate on the issue. I often start with the ADHD client over-excited and then suddenly calming down after the first 9-Gamut. I use it every now and then in these sessions. And one client that I suspected had ADHD found his unusual shortcut homework helped concentration at work; it only consisted of the 9-Gamut!
Another client's eyesight became 20-20 by using the homework I gave for allergy desensitization. I must admit he had only a low prescription before the EFT, but 20-20 vision is still an unexpected improvement. He attributed it to the 9-Gamut helping his eye muscle coordination. I hope this encourages others to experiment with this handy tool from the EFT toolkit.
Using EFT for Scleroderma (severe chronic illnesses).
http://www.emofree.com/scleroderma.htm
by Baerbel Froehlin, CHt./HypnoCoach, EFT-ADV
Colorado Springs, USA
I'd like you to know about a very interesting physical change in my client from Germany, who has systemic, progressive Scleroderma. Systemic means, it's all over his body, attacking organs, making his skin hard like leather und inflexible, his hands are tight, hard and bent into claws. Progressive means the disease is progressing fast. He has problems with the blood supply in his body, especially to his extremities. At every doctors visit, he gets heart and lungs checked for symptoms of the disease.
Right now he is getting problems with his esophagus.
Obviously it too has hardened, become inflexible, so he has problems and pain when he needs to swallow food.
We had our first phone session last Thursday, June 17 for just one hour.
I only addressed his disease in general as a problem, such as:
Even though I have this illness … I am okay
Even though I am afraid I will never get over this illness … I am okay
Even though I am afraid to deal with this problem …
Even though I can't believe there is any help for me … I am okay with me and my poor, sick body.
Even though Baerbel tells me there might be relief … I am afraid to have any hopes … because it's painful to be disappointed again … and because all Doctors told me it's incurable … and I have to live with it … I choose to be open to participate in the therapy … and I'm still okay
Even though it's hard for me to trust … that there could be positive changes in how I live with this illness ... and there she comes and tells me so … it's hard to believe … I am afraid of being disappointed again … and even though she represents hope for me … and I just feel her confidence about being able to make positive changes in my disease .. I am still okay
Even though I might not be able or willing to do everything to lessen my problems … I am still okay … Even though I have this illness … I am okay just the way I am … and I accept my body the way it is …
On our second session Friday on June 18, he was very excited to tell me about this:
He has had an open wound on his finger for more than one year. This wound would hurt, be inflamed and not heal at all, no matter what the doctors tried. So again, they told him he had to live with it! On the morning after our first session the crust on the wound broke open and started to discharge a lot of puss. Then it closed, cleanly, without any discomfort whatsoever.
That experience is not only good for his health, most of all it was a GREAT motivator for him, to hope again. This made him believe, that there still is power within himself, that he still will be able to accomplish positive changes for himself. That will help a lot, because it changed his mindset, he now strongly WANTS to go forward. ...
Further thoughts on applying EFT by Baerbel Froehlin
I'd like to add a few ideas which are good to know in general,
maybe even before therapists start working on severe cases.
I believe the most important thing for therapists is to have STRONG, SOLID RAPPORT.
This will allow the clients to work with you, even when they really don't feel like it. It is hard work for both client and therapist! This will carry both of them through tough times of not being able to believe that they will get better or onsets of depression which are common in those cases. Good rapport enables the client to trust in whatever the therapist comes up with, to make it possible for them to again go another step forward. I often also find that, as a woman I cannot come "from Venus" but have to "be from Mars" (thank you, John Gray). It is different working with women than with men who have chronic diseases.
There is a certain unpredictability how clients with serious diseases behave, caused partly by how painful the impact of physical symptoms is. In addition, we will have emotional unstability from depressive thoughts, from the awareness that this will take ongoing work for a while and the physical limitations will still be there, at least to a certain degree. Therefore it is crucial for them to see and acknowledge even the slightest improvements on a daily basis, and that's where the creative work of the therapist comes in. For the therapist EFT will help to release uncomfortable feelings about his/her own capacities.
I have my clients fill out symptom charts, where they answer different questions about how they feel about their symptoms that particular day. I do that before and after the session. It is enormously gratifying and assuring for both client and therapist to see the much lower levels of physical and emotional symptoms on their chart after the session is over.
As a hypnotherapist I do work with what I call "Relaxation Therapy", it always provides solid relaxation of body and mind. That will carry the client through many hours of the day with relief of pain big time, even if there is not a direct response to the EFT part of the session. Especially in serious diseases that may come later, or it may also come suddenly in a bundle.
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Important Follow up
Six weeks have passed and I've been working on the phone, doing EFT across the Atlantic with my Scleroderma client in Germany. Improvements so far have been quite a few, physically and emotionally. He has now cut his meds dramatically, lowering the Cortision that he used to take in very high doses. He is able to do that because the inflammation in his body is decreasing.
His doctor did a blood test recently to measure the inflammation in his body. Before, his numbers were always somewhere between 40 and 70. Now he is at 20; 10 would be considered a normal, healthy number. This is the first time he has been at 20 since he has been diagnosed and tested. This is medical proof of his progress. For his much lower pain he now needs less and less medication; during the last two weeks he only took 2 doses. Before he needed a big dose 3 times a day.
Swallowing was getting painful for my client, because of the hardening of his esophagus when we started working together. It seems he can now swallow without problems.
Because of the hardening of the skin on his hands, shoulders and face he has needed massages twice a week. The massage therapist mentioned to him the other day that the skin on his hands, which used to be extremely tight and tough, now definitely is becoming smoother, more elastic and flexible. It also has improved in thickness, especially on his knuckles. Before the skin there was paper thin; you could see the bone underneath.
The emotional improvement is amazing.
I am still coaching him through practical changes he needed to do in his work (he has his own business). He needed to turn his life around quite a bit and he did!. He now takes times out during the day for himself, to rest, to pause, to do some exercise. He has taken up swimming again and started running at a slow pace. This is the man who couldn't do any exercise previously, because his body was hurting too much.
We have done a lot of tapping on his anger and frustration, on his grief and despair. He hated his body, because it refused to do what he wanted it to do; we tapped on that and we're still not finished.
Even though I hate my body … I can't do anything any more … all the things my body used to do so well for me … and I always could rely on it … can't do it anymore … it's a joke … can't even hold a pen anymore … can't do the work I love any more … took it away from me …
Even though I am being punished … don't know what for … everything that was ever important to me … my body refuses to do now …
... I now choose to accept my body … it is my oldest, very best friend … just the way it is!
I now choose to understand … I have to learn how to treat my body … like my oldest, very best friend!
Right now it looks as if the progression of Scleroderma has stopped.
It has even started to reverse in some areas. His immune system seems to work FOR him now, instead of AGAINST him earlier.
A NOTE: My client has always been an "over achiever".
He has forever pushed himself over his limits, and that could be one of the reasons he'd gotten this illness in the first place. The good thing is, that we can now turn his ambitions around and use this extreme commitment for his own benefit!
Further follow up
I used some hypnosis with lots of EFT, also journaling and some Art Therapy.
My client, because of his physical limitations, got tired easily with tapping, so hypnosis brought about quick changes in how he felt physically. Hypnosis in the form of visualizations and healing imagery are great motivators. There were some difficult moments during those intense 2 weeks:
1. Doing 4 hours of one-on-one therapy daily with a physically restricted client,
I had to find ways to make tapping possible physically.
2. I also had to find ways to keep myself going on in "turbo" and not miss a thing.
3. I had to "catch" my client when he was having an emotional breakdown, suddenly telling me
"You can't do anything anyway, nobody can help me, this therapy won't change a thing" - and luckily I succeeded.
The following tapping phrases really saved the day.
Whenever he felt stuck or tired, we did them;
always with the result that his mood changed completely and he felt much better, emotionally and physically:
Even though I am completely healthy … I can accept myself
Even though life is wonderful and complete … I profoundly accept myself
Even though I have everything I ever wanted in my life … I do accept myself the way I am...
… I am moving around comfortably … feeling at my very best … never felt better in my life … life is really good … couldn't be better for me ….nice hands … there is nothing I can't do for myself … the sky is the limit! … I feel very strong … I am extremely capable … and I am well!
The day he left for the airport, he told me he felt "profoundly" convinced that he is going to get better; There were no doubts in his mind. The improvements in his physical symptoms were: (many)
Final Follow-up
Here comes the latest update on the Scleroderma case I have written about 6 months ago. I had not heard from my client for several months after he had been in Colorado Springs for two weeks of one-on-one therapy and went back to Germany in late August. He told me then he was “done” with therapy, including “all the tapping and advice” and would be fine on his own. After that he never responded to my e-mails until recently when I received a letter from him.
This man is now back to serious physical health conditions, things have gone back to where they were when we started his therapy. As soon as he was on the plane back to Germany his pain level, which had been consistently low for months, shot up into extreme heights and he was forced to again take his strong pain medications. Back home he had blood work done which showed high inflammation counts.
[Energy Blocks, and, severe imprinting]
... this is a classical “secondary gain” case; it contains important facts that may give valuable and much needed information to other therapists, while dealing with clients with serious diseases. You can read all related details of his therapy in my earlier articles about Scleroderma including several follow-ups.
My client’s mental condition however has become and still is absolutely great!
In his letter he thanks me for the COMPLETE emotional well-being he is enjoying. He describes himself as emotionally balanced, always in a good mood now. He talks about “looking forward into the future optimistically”. He sold his business and enjoys financial independence. He plans on spending the cold months of the year in a warm climate, reading and doing many enjoyable things he was not able to do before while he was tied up in his business.
It is important to take a look at this clients’ background to better understand the changes in this case:
41-year old male, divorced, lives alone, describes his family of origin (two brothers) as good. Had his own thriving stone-masonry business, employed several people. Over-achiever, no way to communicate feelings besides anger and rage, which he was feared for. Never felt good enough, constantly pushed himself further to achieve more. Sometimes aggressive expressions and behavior, analytical, critical thinking, difficult to communicate with during therapy, frugal with words and empathy for others. Does not express himself willingly (“I’m not used to talking about my problems”); trust has always been an issue. Needed to constantly protect himself from “exploitation” by others, not easily convinced about anything. Has lived his life, always feeling he could never have what he really wanted!
One-on-one therapy with him turned out to be real hard work for me, mostly because of the unpredictability of the case development. Each day was different. Some days he refused to even look at the possibility that he could be well again or at least much better than he was. His “skeptic” [SuperEgo] – his extremely critical part - was all over his dreams, the pictures he drew and made him refuse tapping. The “skeptic” insisted that “no human being can get out of my illness, it’s impossible, and no tapping will change that.” On other days my client was in a more receptive mood, he seemed to enjoy what we did and even had a peaceful way about him. Because he often was exhausted already in the morning, I used hypnosis many times to help him regain motivation and physical strength.
Looking back I have realized, this type of therapy made it possible for him to finally find his true inner voice, his core, that led him to understand deep down inside what he really, really needed. Coming back out of his increasingly deeper trances, he slowly started to be a different person, a more warm, caring and patient individual.
Obviously he came to understand and accept that his illness would make it possible for him to live in a different way than he demanded before. It may even have felt as the “door to a new kind of freedom” for him, including changes that would not have been accepted in his culture or by his family, if he would have regained his health. Those changes could have been to let go of his business, the work that he had invested so much energy into, just to have “an easy life without the hard work”.
By watching him becoming a more gentle, peaceful person, becoming more confident with his body and his outlook on life, I can still remember feeling that things changed into unknown territory during those last few days we spent together. He couldn’t wait to get back home, he obviously had found what he’d been looking for.
I am happy for him, reading that for the first time he likes his life, that he enjoys doing what he choose he wanted to do. It took me a while though; I had to battle my own demons that were telling me I had not done good enough work, not showed him more or better alternatives for dealing with his illness, not done who knows what. Until I got to understand I did exactly what a good therapist has to do: to facilitate healing and empowerment, so that the client is able to make his own decision!
NOTE:
His Dad told me (I also had phone sessions with him), he has never seen his son as “alive and well” emotionally as now! He points out how my client has changed his attitude, how calmly he his making his decisions now.
“There is a deep calm about my son that was never there before!”
The following phrases show what I have needed to tap on:
Even though I didn’t do my job … couldn’t help my client …
I am waiting for the time when I can accept myself again.
Even though I’m a failure … I am trying to accept myself anyway.
Even though this is not what I wanted for him …I now understand it’s obviously what he wanted … and needed … and he could accept himself again … so I now choose to accept myself also.
Even though I thought I had the real truth for my client … and he showed me I was wrong … I am okay with that … because I now choose to understand that it is not what I want for him … but what he is willing to get for himself … which is pretty good after all … turning an angry man into a happy, peaceful man … and I am open to look at myself in a more accepting way ... the only thing that counts is having happy clients … and so I will be happy too.
Even though I had to find out … that it was a PRIMARY GAIN … instead of a secondary gain … I now decide for myself … that all that matters is facilitating empowerment … and healing … in whatever way my client chooses to use it … for his own well-being … and so I choose to step back … and accept the fact … that I have again learned something important … and can accept myself … as a therapist and human being … exactly the way I am!”
October 02, 2008 Newsletter
Alcoholic eliminates desire for alcohol by addressing "state" ness.
http://www.emofree.com/Addictions/alcoholic-state-change.htm
By Colin Larcombe
This instructive article by an alcoholic discusses his fight with alcohol and his unsuccessful uses for EFT in this regard. However, with persistence he finally landed on an issue that (for him) allowed EFT to completely resolve his desire. He says, "I spent so much time concentrating on the negatives and the side issues of alcohol, I didn't realize it was the "state" ness of desire that was the key all along. I have not had a drink since, nor the desire. I take each day as it comes now but without the fear."
I have been an EFT'er for about 2 years now and it has brought some interesting improvements in my life and helped me get over the mental effects of cancer. However despite, the Palace of Possibilities work, I had been unable to improve my life to get rid of unwanted desires. Here's the story of it.
I have been successfully using EFT on my own personal issues ever since I had testicular cancer at the tender age of 35. For all the after effects and unwanted thoughts that are associated with cancer I have been successful in applying the techniques and eliminating the troublesome thoughts that would reoccur.
I have been a meditator and a yoga practitioner for several years and felt it was time that I give up alcohol because it did not integrate well into my lifestyle. I exercise daily at 6 am and trying to get into the lotus position with a hangover is not the easiest thing to do !!
I would say that I am an alcoholic.
I drink maybe a glass of wine or beer a day, with a bit more for social drinking at parties and get-togethers. I have never been sick drunk, yet I believed that I couldn't stop drinking. My first drink was at the age of 13 and I mixed white wine and red wine at a party. Yet the person who gave me the alcohol was my father. He is another alcoholic and drinks a bottle of something a day.
On and off now for 2 years I have had several attempts at eliminating alcohol from my life
Firstly I tried with the negatives that alcohol brought me.
"Even though I feel awful after drinking"
"Even though this reduces my capacity to be a good husband father etc"
"Even though its my dads fault"
Then I went through every drink
"Even though I adore the taste of a cool beer"
"Even though I adore the taste of a chilled glass of white wine"
None of these worked.
I then thought about the fact that I drank for social reasons and the desire to fit in....
"Even though I feel an outcast if I don't drink"
"Even though I will have no friends if I don't drink"
Every occasion when I was out, I was thinking "Am I able to refuse this drink?" and every time I gave in without the slightest fight. Two or three glasses of champagne later, I started to get sleepy and I knew the cycle had started again. Another glass, and a few hours later the hangover and general awfulness would wash over me.
I had tried on several attempts just to see the negative side of alcohol but the breakthrough came when I thought about getting a beer when I was walking from the office for my train home.
"Even though tapping is absolutely useless for desires" and it strangely enough gave me comfort to believe that maybe tapping wouldn't work on this so I could always "blame tapping failure" if I wanted a drink. Needless to say I didn't drink a beer on that train home.
The final epiphany came some days later, when I was doing something unrelated. I had this vision of what I wanted alcohol to achieve for me, for example being able to sit down with my wife, on the sofa, in front of the fire with a cold glass of white wine and chill out and relax. But it has NEVER EVER happened that way.
"Even though I have never been able to achieve the dream state I desire"
And that was it! The desire evaporated. I keep pinching myself and I keep tapping myself
"Even though I can't believe I will never drink alcohol again"
I spent so much time concentrating on the negatives and the side issues of alcohol, I didn't realize it was the "state" ness of desire that was the key all along.
I have not had a drink since, nor the desire.
I take each day as it comes now but without the fear.
When certain music triggers grief and sadness.
http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/grief-sadness-relief-music.htm
By Odet Beauvoisin
E-mail: odetb@hotmail.co.uk
For some people, music is particularly emotive, putting them instantly in touch with their deepest feelings. It links with precious, significant events in their lives - and is particularly beneficial when these are joyous links. Here comes the "but"....
After a death or separation, these same pieces of music can trigger overwhelming grief; and all the feelings associated with that loss sadness, fear, betrayal, shame, anger, isolation, failure, inadequacy, rejection, bewilderment etc. Music that once evoked joy, now links instantly and directly to a painful energy disturbance bringing the energy disruption (or "zzzzt", as Gary calls it) right up where you can tap on it. This is helpful when emotions cannot be expressed in words.
For someone unable to listen to "our favourite tune" years after a deep loss, close death or rejection; I have found that tapping the short-cut EFT sequence whilst deliberately listening to such songs or music relieves the overwhelming grief, and reaches a cognitive shift, in shorter time than standard talk-therapy.
I suspect that tapping along with the music accesses subconscious aspects … the sound of the music keeps the focus on the negative disruption until the disruption is smoothed out. Testing the EFT is so easy here. You are done when it becomes possible to hear the tune, song, or music with the original joy and with appreciation of all its personal meaning.
I began using CD's of such music for myself in the 2nd year following a deep personal bereavement (a loss that was all the more intense because it was almost identical to one from 16 years previously). The pre-EFT self-help therapies meant "steel yourself, feel the fear, face up to it," causing much pain (emotional and physical), little progress, and weariness from the effort. It was my attempt to come to terms with the loss, and dull its effects if I could. Forcing myself to be aware of what I should be grateful for, made me feel better for a short while, but only briefly. The best I could generate in myself was a resignation to "that's life", and a commitment to keep on living.
I have been using EFT for myself and for clients since I was introduced to EFT at the beginning of this year, but I only got "so far" with my personal grief by using verbal expressions, a variety of set-ups, and a multitude of specific events. Then I went back to my music CDs. The use of personally emotive music, with good, intense-but-now-sad memories embedded in it, seems to have bypassed the need for full conscious awareness of exactly what issue I was tapping on. Occasionally, a verbalisation came to mind, and I used it.
Even though you made that promise, and didn't keep it …
Even though I was a mug to believe it … This progressed to …
Even though you couldn't keep that promise … which became …
Even though you did your best, and I love you anyway - as well as myself.
I used to have to leave any public place that began playing "that music" in the background. You'd be amazed how often that happened; there were times it felt like a sabotage conspiracy.
Public displays of personal sadness are an anathema in Britain.
Eruptions of private grief are generally treated as glitches in self-control, and meet with bewilderment and embarrassment; sometimes with hostility, and an apparent desire that the problem will evaporate of its own accord. Brits just don't know how to handle grief supportively. The writing on my mental walls says, "It is expected that you avoid getting upset in a public place. Get some control, or stay out of circulation", and I have been tapping on it since I discovered EFT.
And now, as I wrote before, it has become possible to hear tunes, songs, and music and to access the original joy and appreciation of their personal meaning, alongside a "normal" sense of loss. Listening to music has regained its life enhancing quality for me.
EFT, CFS and autoimmune diseases.
http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/CFS-ME-CFIDS-jo.htm
By Jo Hainsworth
E-mail: freeeft@yahoo.co.uk
I had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS/M.E./CFIDs) for many years, and completely healed as a result of EFT, so I know it can be done and I wrote an article about it. I did this as a result of following two leads from the EFT DVDs – one a comment by Dr Carol Look that underlying most allergies is a belief that the person isn’t safe, and the other along the same lines by Stephen Daniel. Initially I couldn’t relate to this in my own case but fortunately EFT is “through me not by me” and led me to the answers, and I discovered that this belief had in fact pervaded my life for many years.
The best metaphor I have been able to come up with to help people to understand autoimmune illnesses is to imagine that the adrenals are like a burglar alarm (they alert that there is something unwanted in the body that needs to be dealt with) and the immune system like the security guards (it helps remove the unwanted intruder). When we have been through some sort of trauma, we can take on a belief that we are not safe or not able to protect ourselves. This can be as a result of one major trauma (for example a birth trauma) or it can be the outcome of a series of traumatic events, for example ongoing abuse.
When we take on this belief, we seem to unwittingly send the message to the burglar alarm that it has to be super vigilant and on guard all the time, which leads to the burglar alarm going off all the time. This results in adrenal exhaustion and serious fatigue.
This hyperactivity in the warning system also results in the immune system constantly being asked to protect our body against a perceived threat, that isn’t in actual fact harmful to our body. This is commonly seen in those with autoimmune illnesses with them developing more and more allergic reactions to various foods, pollens and chemicals as time goes by.
In my own case prior to doing the EFT I was convinced that my reactions were a result of long term damage to my immune system by the drugs I had been prescribed over the years, but the EFT helped me to see that in actual fact the things I was reacting to were benign, and it was the alarm system that was faulty. Since using EFT to recalibrate the alarm system, I haven’t reacted to a single substance in 18 months (after reacting to many, many substances for more than 10 years.)
Autoimmune illnesses often start as issues with digestion – for those with pre-birth and birth trauma this can manifest as reflux, colic or inability to digest the milk right from the start. For some it manifests later as sinus infections due to lots of mucus, or food intolerances. It can be difficult to see the link between these digestive malfunctions and the immune system – the easiest way to look at it is that if there is a burglar in the house, there are higher priorities than sitting at the table and eating your dinner! The digestive system is sacrificed in times of high stress, and living with a burglar alarm constantly going off is high stress. I believe that this is at least partly why so many of us with autoimmune challenges find our ill health starts as trouble with digesting our food.
If you are supporting someone who has an autoimmune illness (and I include in this category anything that results in a malfunctioning immune system, which includes: chronic fatigue syndrome/ME, MS, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple food or chemical sensitivities or allergies, AIDs, recurrent thrush, systemic candidiasis, chronic sinusitis, cancer etc), you may find that some exploration of the “I’m not safe” theme very useful. An approach that can help is to first identify when the symptoms started, and look to see if there was anything going on in the person’s life in the year or so leading up to the symptoms.
However I’ve found that this on its own is not always enough, as sometimes the event that resulted in the start of the immune symptoms was simply a trigger for the unresolved emotional conflict from an earlier trauma, usually in the first 7 years of life. I’ve worked with a number of people who have autoimmune conditions who had traumatic births and have taken on the belief that they are unsafe.
A traumatic birth is not limited to only those where the delivery is traumatic – I worked with one woman whose birth was uncomplicated but her mother developed complications 24 hours after the birth and was rushed to intensive care. While the woman in question felt that it was unlikely to be an issue for her, when we tapped on it a thought popped up that as a one day old baby she was afraid that her mother was never going to come back and that she would die. This left her feeling unsafe, unprotected and vulnerable, despite the constant company of her Grandmother who never left her side.
For others the feeling of being unsafe starts even before birth, as a result of their mother being afraid -- for example someone close to her being diagnosed with a terminal illness and her fearing the death of that person, or a conflict arising due to the pregnancy being unplanned, with termination considered as a possibility. We pick so much up while in the womb, these sorts of situations can result in us feeling unsafe and unable to protect ourselves.
And for others still the trauma may come later in life, from parents divorcing and feeling unsafe and unprotected as a result of the way it was handled, or a sudden death of someone close, or other trauma that could result in them taking on a point of view that they are vulnerable and can’t protect themselves.
EFT is such an incredibly powerful tool that it is really only limited by our beliefs about how much we can heal. Many people with autoimmune illnesses have been told by the medical profession that there is nothing they can do about it, and that they need to change their lifestyle to manage the symptoms.
It’s important for us to remember that “incurable” simply means “curable from within”. We are so incredibly fortunate to have this incredible tool of EFT to help us to gently go inside and clear the specific events that could have resulted in us taking on the belief that we are unsafe and cannot protect ourselves. If you are working with someone with an autoimmune illness, or have one yourself, this sort of exploration could result in them or you being freed from the prison of the “I’m not safe” belief, if it’s an issue for them or you.
From my own experience I know that there can be few more liberating things in the world, and I will forever be thankful for having been able to heal the “I’m not safe” beliefs and go on to live the active and healthy life that I do, with no traces whatsoever of the 20+ years I was seriously ill with CFS.
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