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1. Yellow Zone: on the road to Conflict.
Did you know that humans are NOT political by genes?
That's correct. If you study ANY of human ancient history you will find that from the origin of humanity (some estimates go back to 1 million years BC) until less than 6000 years ago, humans gathered and hunted in groups of 15 to 30 people. They lived in an eden of plenty, for the density of their population. As long as they were prepared to move from one region to another, several times per year, to utilize the surplus growth in each, they always had enough. Without scarcity, there was no need for hoarding, possessing, storage, protection, or security.
With the advent of industrialized food supply, surplus was achieved.
Crops and/or herds could be grown in controlled ways that USUALLY certified a predictable large return per season or year, relative to that of simply gathering whatever was found for the day. It no longer was necessary to change location frequently. Often, a band could build their housing in a favorable area and stay permanently. Larger herds and larger areas of tilled land and fished shoals attracted larger numbers of people to share both the labor and the rewards. Larger, became the same as more complex, in structure and dynamics.
Material possession grew in importance along with the planning, sowing, and reaping of crops and cattle products. If one was going to put a lot of focused daily labor into a plot of land, loss of the produce was a high RISK for disaster. Hunting and gathering bands drifting through the area would find concentrated crops of grains, vegetables, fruits, and cattle .. to be great finds. Food could be picked in handfuls rather than collected from the wild into handfuls. Cattle could be taken rom enclosures rather than captured singly after an arduous and risky hunt. Yet every handful taken was a handful lost to the farmer, or, an animal lost to the herder. If the herder-farmer were to have a dependable and Secure reward for their efforts, they had to PROTECT their crops. Land ownership-control began.
Communication between humans appears to have gone quite smoothly for hundreds of thousands of years .. almost telepathically, as long as small numbers of humans traveled together with a flexibility of membership and a plentiful supply of food. Yes, there would be misunderstandings between spouses and within families and between band members. Yet, these would all involve simple emotional issues with little rational involvement ... as long as there was material independence ... no land or territory ownership and restriction. If someone made themselves disliked by their immature emotions and violence, they were asked to leave the band (shape up or ship out). Few would willingly choose lifelong isolation against the vaguaries (illness, accidents, minimal knowledge) of the wild.
Communication amongst larger groups of humans, together with increasing materialistic concerns, demanded judgements on rights of ownership, assessments of value, and conviction and enforcement of penalties. Cropping and herding had the huge advantage of surpluses. Their severe RISK was the catastrophic damage that weather changes and disease epidemics would bring on highly concentrated crops.
In the wild, the hardiness of individual plants was often increased in poor weather both by the wide broadcasting of the seeds, and, the sheltering of other nearby plants. In the concentrated growth structures of farming, a herd could be destroyed in total by a fatal contagious disease, or, a fire within the structure which housed them from the free roaming of the wild. The almost predictable dry year would arive, within a decade or less. It could destroy a complete crop of plants all packed into a small area with no shaded protection offered by other plants (weeds/companion planting).
Loss of crop or herd became a devastation which could starve a community to death. Yes, if some crop owners and herds-keepers succeeded during the bad weather years, they could share their produce with those who lost everything. Yet, to do so, would be to risk repayment or reciprocal support at a later time. It was too easy for such debts to be forgotten or for the effort to repay them to be minimal. Laws began to multiply. Chiefs and other leaders had to be appointed or elected and given authority to make and enforce laws. The alternative would be anger, frustration, strife, augument, hatred, vengeance, jealousy, theft, and violence .. continuously. Innocent people would DIE. Such would lead to endemic fear and insecurity. At worst, the membership would begin to disperse back to the wild. All the material benefits would be lost. Order trumped freedom. Surplus (and poverty) was chosen over self-sufficiency.
2. Red Zone: Invitations to Disaster.
With the advent of the Authority of a Leader, supported by Laws, agreed upon, and enforced by an adminstration ... political structure was born. Within a few generations individuals would assume roles to define what they were responsible for as an extension of their gender, occupation, or, age. If a husband specialized and did all the "outside" work, the wife could specialize and do all the "inside" work.
Role assignment could be more productive and efficient in each area of responsibility. Also, neither would share the responsibilites and skills of the other. Too often, neither would understand or empathize with the challenges and frustrations they had not experienced themselves, yet, their partner did. It is all too easy to assume that the work of someone else is easy, once THEY have developed an expertise, while you remain totally ignorant.
A new and/or young administrator, who had never worked at construction or herding, might now become responsible for the maintaining of order in such fields by the interpretation and enforcement of the laws pertaining to such. With no experience of the realities of such a field, misinterpretations frustrated the intent. Laws increasingly became more detailed and complex in an attempt to minimize misinterpretation .. as if words could replace involvement.
The repayment of debt ensured the slavery of the debtor.
If no growing value was attached to the principal starting amount of a loan, for the duration of the LOSS, the RISK to the lender was never acknowledged. Why should I share my RESERVE, which MY family might need another year, if that reserve was never replenished? Why should the debtor make any attempt beyond the minimal to a repayment or return of the equivalent of the grain, meat, or other materials "borrowed" to BRIDGE a time of personal loss (of herd or crop).
If the duration of the debt returned additional payment ... an interest amount, the debtor would have the motivation to return the "loan" to the lender as soon as possible, the results of the hard work and risk of the lender who had built a surplus. Only a surplus could be lent. Surpluses were often the result of self-restraint and self-sacrifice. More time working in the fields is less time enjoyed privately or socially with one's family and friends. It was often difficult to avoid the extremes of work dominance or party obsession. Why sacrifice when you could steal or defraud. More laws and structure.
Population density increased with the success of the mass control of food production. Material surplus allowed for accommodation permanence, job specialization, health care improvement, and, demanded ... space ownership, a belief in orderliness, and security through legality and bureaucratization. Tasks often replaced involvement, in human relationships. Where experience once provided a solid foundation for beliefs and fears, mass humanity defined much of its beliefs upon intellectualized projections of what something reported MIGHT mean, rather than what it was, by virtue of ACTION.
For the person with multiple chronic and acute illnesses, these developments are significant. Within the band structure, most adults lived a stress-free (by modern standards) lifestyle, had enhancing relationships, and died by the age of their mid-40s. Many babies and children died of illness. Many teenagers and adults died from accidents or parasitic illnesses. No one lived long enough or in enough health or with enough resources to survive more than one chronic or acute illness at a time. Most survivors of illness or accident experiences had the benefit of the herbal knowledge of other band members, and/or, the hopeful and loving intentions of a small community ... an extended family.
WHY is CFS-ME becoming more common?
There are more humans on the Earth now than ever before in the 4 billion or more years history of the EARTH. Every human requires a minimum food and shelter allowance, if they are to survive without continual or repeated distress. Yet, resources have been greedily plundered from the Earth for more than 200 years. Rather than being respectful stewards of the resources around us, we have sought only to gather them, crudely, amass them greatly, refine them with huge waste and toxification of the environment, and ever reduce our ability to replenish them, or become LESS dependent on them. We now grow food in soil-air-water that is polluted with high concentrations of toxic chemicals and minerals, and, deficient by as much as 80% in the nutrients they carried from the soil, just 60 years ago.
What have we bought with such a debt?
The degree of material possession and availability which a large number of people have now, could not even be imagined, as ever possible, as little as 50 years ago. In the 1950s, most of the food used by people was grown within 100 miles of where they lived. Many continued to grow a portion of their own. In 2009, many people buy and use food which is grown outside their climate zone, their country, even their hemisphere. Such food may travel thousands of miles. Instead of a selection of several dozen products, one now faces many thousands of varieties. A similar analogy can be made to the availability of clothing, furniture, appliances, books, radio, television, magazines, newspapers, and electronics. So also, the variation of health care options has grown to include thousands of operations, pharmaceuticals, herbs, therapies, and research reports ... yet, which ones are relevant!?
Economically, we grow our debt through our institutions and governments with a great degree of denial afforded through the dissociation of intellectualized paper proposals mounted on the backs of political representatives who we gift power, according to how much they promise they will do for US, so we may avoid our own responsibilities. We ask them to safeguard our security and order, while we try to steal jobs and income from our neighbors, or economic competitors, in the belief that we EVERYONE will win through deceiving ourselves, and them. We, like children, expect to be rescued from our own follies and mistakes by the authorities we love to hate. Politics has used war and debt to rescue communities since the beginning of history. When we can no longer afford our lifestyle, we will take what we deem to need, from someone else, UNLESS ...
3. Can YOU See? (Awareness)
It is often said that "seeing is Believing."
Yet with CFS-ME, seeing is often NOT believing!
Most of the "professionals" who work with these patients have no similar personal experience. Much of the time, their training and their health care references have little that is relevant to CFS-ME. Indeed, much of what has been available to them, from their training, their peers, and the general culture .. is incorrect, mythical, and even promoted to conceal political incompetence and institutional ignorance.
Expanded levels of awareness are beneficial for encouraging Recovery.
You may FEEL your symptoms very clearly, repetitively, and intensely. The difficulty can be that "feelings" can define symptoms which are common to dozens of individual and markedly different illnesses. A remedial approach for one of those could be a devastation for another, even life threatening, even though both illnesses share the same symptom.
It can be a bit like a house painter asking you what color you want your walls painted. Caution. You can only tell him ONE major color, like one symptom. He will only recognize and work with either of white, black, yellow, red, or blue. This IS a REAL problem for YOU. The color you want is Green, a combination of yellow and blue. He doesn't mix colors. He only knows about primary colors. Which do you want? You insist, you want a Combination. There is a drawback.
The painter has a pecular form of color-blindness and can't tell the difference between the tones of blue and red. He can't read either! Didn't want to waste his time on learning. He says he understands. You want the blue and yellow mixed. You return at the end of the day. Your walls are painted Orange! He has mistakenly mixed the yellow with the red, not the blue. He insists that he did what you asked. You have wasted your money, time, and resources, and have the walls painted a color you hate. Too bad, this is the only painter available in your locale. Will you have to learn how to do your own painting??
Teaching Instructional Skills to Arrogant Grizzlies.
by Don Sawyer, March 2009, Vol 7, Issue 3
North of 50 newspaper, Box 100, Armstrong, BC, Canada V0E 1B0
University professors are a curious bunch. So many of them, despite having succeeded only at school work and being, for the most part, devoid of any real skills such as plumbing or carpentry, exude arrogance and an exaggerated sense of themselves. Given that they are paid about 100 thou a year for turning up in a classroom five or six hours a week, you would expect a little humility. But no, instead an odd sense of superiority, of entitlement, seems to cling to them like a tweed sport coat. Shortly after Okanagan College was magically transformed into a "university college" some years ago, one professor reportedly stood up at a faculty meeting and declared, "I am ashamed to be working at an institution that also teaches welding."
Why such hubris? ...
At the very least you would expect those operating in our institutions of highest learning to be good at what they allegedly do - teach. But sadly, this is often not the case. Plus, they're not particularly interested in learning how to do so.
This became painfully clear to me about ten years ago when I was hired to provide all incoming professors at our newly-minted university college with a four-day teacher education crash course. Having taught for 20 years at all levels from middle school to dozens of instructional skills workshops across the country (heck, I even sported a graduate degree in education for source credibility), I figured I was up for it. It might even be kind of fun.
I was wrong.
The program included all the usual elements -- lesson planning, instructional methods, evaluation, teaching aids, practice teaching and so on. For the most part the profs had never taken an education class in their lives. (Doesn't it seem ironic that we require kindergarten teachers to take five or six years of education related training but expect none whatsoever - even in educational faculties - of university professors?) But that did not translate into curosity: most went through the motions with a combination of resignation and mild interest. Until, that is, we came to the concept of objectives.
I have never been a big fan of behavioral objectives in the classroom. While I have always acknowledged that it is critical - for me and my students - to have a clear sense of where I want students to be at the end of a lesson and a pretty specific plan for getting there, I have always found behavoral objectives limited in their usefulness. For one thing, they emphasize only learning that is measurable, and most of what is really important raely falls into this category. Still, we needed to at least address the issue and discuss the strengths and weaknesses of objectives. The result was astonishing.
Try as I might, I could not get these highly educated men and women to think about learning in terms of student activities and outcomes. Over and over, their "objectives" were instructor centered: To teach the difference between impressionist and post impressionsist art. To demonstrate .... To explain .... i was stunned. The idea that they needed to think not in terms of what they were going to do, but that they wanted the student to know or be able to do, not to mention feel, seemed utterly beyond them.
When I tried to press the issue, the resistance became fierce.
Finally, an instructor slammed his fist down. "Look. I have a PhD in Biology. My job is to teach. The student's job is to learn. That's all I need to know, and that's all they need to know." With that he stalked out of the classroom.
As I reflected on what was going on, I began to understand.
These were professionals who were experts in their field. They knew the material backwards and forwards. Their job was to transmit it. If they had to begin to think in terms of students rather than themselves, of process rather than content, in terms of student activities, things suddely became much messier. They would then have to think in different ways to present the material. They would have to constantly monitor to see if their students actually understood the material. They would have to think about different ways to present the material that would accommodate different individual interests, abilities, backgrounds and learning styles. They would have to dialogue with the learners.
They would have to take some responsibility for student learning.
Their job would no longer be to merely instruct, but instead to ensure that student learning was actually taking place. This was scary.
In short, rather than being professors - "one that professes, declares or avows" -- they would have to become teachers.
You can become more aware, or, accept the minimum.
4. KISS: Keep It Spiritually Simple.
A STRONG foundation will enable you to build to last.
Recovery will follow in the most optimal way for you IF you begin with and maintain a strong foundation of awareness, tools, options, and supports. Gather together the Spiritual Values you agree to remain consistent with. Here are some which can assist you to choose a FAITH structure that never fails.
- There is a bit of you in every action you take.
- A spiritual perspective values life and such a value abhors waste.
- The more you need, the easier you will sell your soul.
- Our social foundation of experience will likely be filled with idealistic fantasies.
- A spirit of togetherness, caring, and participation strengthens us all.
- Without freedom of choice we are stripped of our spiritual strength.
- A defence is only required when a freedom is jeopardized.
- A spirit in debt, is a spirit facing starvation.
- A priority for consideration is self-respect and respect for each other.
- Honesty and openness may bring understanding.
- An expectation and intent is present whether the reality makes it so or not.
- Spiritually, truth is reality, and, reality is change.
- The choices we make to be involved or removed determine our growth or decay.
- Friends may come and go but your Higher Self will always be there.
- A spiritually aware person is accepting and understanding of others.
- Drawing quick conscious assumptions about the behavior of another person is very error driven.
- If you do not understand the reality that is approaching you, confusion reins and the likely outcome is disaster.
- Distraction closes you off from the spiritual perspective.
- Only the choice of a better options leads to a win.
- Trust is something which is earned by a consistent demonstration of honesty.
If you would like a further elaboration of the above, you can find it in this article:
Spiritual Defense: Prepare or be defeated.
http://www.earthtym.net/a-defence.htm
5. Hairstyles: What others see.
Your style may broadcast WHO you are, or, WHO you admire.
There are many options which can be considered.
Some devote much time and energy to these factors.
Some of the Factors:
- Position at Job: labor, clerk, supervisor, manager, owner ..
- Gender: boy, girl, woman, man
- Social strata: stable, dynamic, moving up
- Tradition: I've always had this since ? decided.
- Economics: employed, indebted, secure, poor.
- Envy: I want to look like ** who others admire.
- Event: daily, prom, wedding, celebration, funeral.
- Age: baby, child, teenager, young adult, married, retired.
- Self-esteem: assertive, passive, interdependent
- Texture/Kind of hair: fine, medium, thick
- Facial shape: round, oval, square, heart, triangle
- Skin Color: white, tan, brown, black,
- Whim: I'll try something different.
- Anger: How can I make $#$ mad?
- Type of hair: straight, wavy, kinky, curly.
For most people, hairstyles are simple enough to maintain at home for most regular day events. Seeing a barber or stylist for a cut or trim is usually to refresh or cleanup after 4 to 6 or more weeks of maintaining a cut at home. Other predictable times include celebrations, special events, and an expectation of meeting an influential or highly respected person. The more difficult it is to maintain a hairstyle and the more often one wants to change it, the more often they are likely to visit a hair professional.
Socializing has often been important for persons who acquire CFS-ME. How one continues and maintains one's social relationships can be seen in the metaphor of hairstyles. They reflect who we are and how we want others to see us (relate to us) and remember us. Our illness STYLE can assist our recovery, or, maintain, and even possibly, worsen our options for recovery.
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I Like!
These are hairstyles which YOU like for some personally relevant reason.
You FEEL comfortable in it.
You don't want to spend time on it, and it is quick and easy.
It accentuates some other part of your body .. eyes, nose, mouth, face, ??
It hides away some other part of your body .. eyes, nose, mouth, face, ??
You KNOW what kind of hair you have and selected the style for that.
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to take whatever supplements you like the taste or color of, going to the therapists and doctors you find are friendly, following the protocols that others tell you should work for you, and, interrupting those protocols whenever you feel the demands are too much on you. You won't likely recover. Your anxiety levels will be kept lower than many while you are in denial. Slowly, friends and relatives will drift away and by the time you realize that you are abandoned, you will be so disoriented as to have a nervous breakdown, commit suicide, or be declared insane. The greatest risk of this style, is Depression.
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Facial Shape Hairstyle.
This is one of the "scientific", practical, and authoritative ways of deciding upon a hair style. In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to go to your medical doctor for the answers. They are treating everyone like an ideal one symptom patient. Often, their medical training, medical association rules, or government restrictions mandate this perspective ... to YOUR loss, and THEIR gain. If you don't fit the ideal, and you don't, they will try and tailor THEIR service to fit you into THEIR one symptom patient profile.
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Oval Face
- Length equal to one and a half times width.
A variety of styles is often suggested with the assumption that you already have "perfect" features. Models have faces like yours. That means you are best not to hide your face behind hair. Better to avoid bangs and sweep the hair back from your face.
For the person with CFS-ME, you LOOK healthy and simplistic tests indicate that you are. Their advice: Get over it and get on with life!
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Round Face
- Your face is as wide as it is long.
Heading for the Oval, you need more fullness and height at the crown. Off center parts help reduce the roundness. Short hair styles with a swept-back direction or hair styles that are longer than chin length can also help. By layering the top to achieve fullness and keeping the rest of the cut relatively close to the face, your round face shape will appear longer and narrower (Oval). Avoid anything that makes your round face seem even more round: Chin length hair with a rounded line, center parts, styles with short-short crops, or straight "chopped" bangs. Fullness at side of ears also accentuates the round shape. The widest part of your face is at the cheeks and ears; avoid having the fullness of the cut here.
For the person with CFS-ME, you will receive all of the standard one symptom solutions. Many of them you already do and have done for a lengthy time, or did, until you became so ill. These include eating lots of fiber, exercising daily, eating fresh fruits and vegatables, avoiding smoking and recreational drugs as well as alcohol, taking a multi-vitamin, .... At worst, they will insist that IF you were doing all of these, you would be healthy. That means, you are unhealthy because you are lying, cheating, or inconsistent. If you really have CFS-ME, regular exercise of any value is impossible. They don't know that and won't believe it coming from you!
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Oblong/Rectangular
- Longer than it is wide.
Styles with short to medium lengths are considered best, and you will want to balance out the length by using your hair to make your cheeks look wider than they are. You may wish to add layers as another way of building out the sides. Side parts may also help keep the hair balanced side for side. Avoid longer hair length . . . this will make your face will look even longer!
For the person with CFS-ME, this style is Depression.
You can make the most of this symptom, and do all that is possible to counter it and cope with it. Doing so can literally occupy your new and minimized life. This WILL keep your spirits up, and that hope can open you to possibilities that can drag you out of this gutter. This "style" alone will NOT lead to recovery. It may not even restrain you from falling deeper into ill health if your efforts to cope sabotage some of the time you might better devote to understanding CFS-ME and selecting relevant options for yourself and doing them. Recovery is all about Balance in an environment of anarchy!
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Heart
- Narrow at jaw line, wide at cheekbones/and or forehead.
You want a little more rounding to be more like the Oval.
Chin-length or longer, side-parted hair, swept-forward layers, wispy bangs. Avoid short, full styles that emphasize the upper face. Also avoid height at the crown, and slicked back looks.
Being too much in the Heart, can be a problem for CFS-ME persons when interacting with others. Too much in YOUR heart, that is. It can seem like all you care about and that occupies your consciousness is yourself. This has a tendency to exclude everyone else and most of those excluded will sense it and not return. The ones who do stay will be, just like you. They will be so obsessed with their own health collapse that they will not notice that you are not noticing them, and, you are so obsessed with yours that you will think they are listening and supporting you.
Both of you are talking, nobody is listening.
There is no silence, no conflict, and, the reality is that both of you are assisting each other drown! Rounding out the picture would be to back off from yourself in the company of others and notice THEM. It would be exercising self-discipline and not giving more information than others ask for. If they do not ask, they are either not interested, or, don't know how to constructively cope with what they expect to hear. You will only drag everyone down if you challenge their fears and force them to fail. Think WIDER, deeper. Feel with your heart. Thinking is for the head.
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Square - your face is about as wide as it is long.
Short-to-medium length hair, especially with wave or roundness around the face. Wispy bangs will soften the angular shape. Off-center parts with height at the crown encourages a more Oval image. If your hair is straight, you may want to consider a body wave, as some curl or wave to the hair will achieve a nice balance to the straight features of your face shape. Avoid features which make a square jaw more prominent: long straight styles, straight bangs, center parts.
Being strong, silent, and independent is another style which some CFS-ME patients fall into. Acting like a shy nerd and keeping to yourself is no more constructive than imposing on everyone, like the Heart Style. Everyone can benefit from emotional support, understanding, and compassion. It is called Love. If you close yourself off to it, you open the door to paranoia and self-doubt. These open more doors to depression, denial, overwhelm, and fear. Balance between joining in and either imposing or exclusion is difficult. If you know the weaknesses, you can prepare yourself with limits to both give and take.
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Triangular, reverse of the heart-shape . . .
a dominant jaw line with narrowing at the cheek bone and temples.
Shorter hair will balance your prominent jaw line. Styles that are full at the temples and taper at the jaw will trend towards the Oval, desired. Other options include off center parts, wedges and shags. Lots of layers are needed to add fullness through the upper part of your face. You might tuck your hair behind your ears. This will draw attention to your eyes and add the illusion of width in this area.
Avoid long hair, center parts, too much height at the crown.
Being too much in the Angles, can be a problem for CFS-ME persons when interacting with others. Too much in YOUR angles can be about how much you can deceive and manipulate others and how much you believe they are doing the same to you. This is where you may be using subtle threats and promises in the hope of making someone else do or perform in a way they would not freely chose to. You may be compulsively looking for all the positives and negatives in everything and never acknowledging anyone.
You ask for an answer. You get one.
You immediately question the validity and worth of the answer. The responder is confused. If you did not want their opinion or experience, why did you ask?! You sit on the fence, perpetually asking, and doubting .. making no decisions, or, doing whatever you intially wanted to do while waiting to find someone else to take the responsibility for it. You can acknowledge others without holding them responsible for your recovery or failures.
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Diamond
- Widest at cheekbones, narrow forehead and jaw line of approximately equal widths. Almost everything works because you have a more near Oval face than others. Avoid too much hair on your face as it may make you look like non-Oval styles.
Being too much in the Money, can be a problem for CFS-ME persons when interacting with others. Too much in YOUR Money, that is. It can seem like all you care about and that occupies your consciousness is how much everything costs and how much others should be willing to do for you because you are paying them, or, just because you are you. This can result in selfish expectations. You may expect that your doctor or health facilitator should simply pay attention to your expertise and do whatever you ask of them.
You may become unrealistically annoyed, frustrated, and even demanding, if they mention that an appointment must be rescheduled because an urgency has come up for them to attend to. You act as if their life is given meaning simply to serve you. This is an almost certain way to distance others from you and for you to lose the support of someone who does have the skills to assist you, and, who given time, may warm to your unorthodox requests which challenge them with change and risk. Yes, you CAN buy the services of many and products from afar. If you cover your face with the "hair" of rationalizations and demands, you may find those options fast disappearing or becoming tainted.
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Scene:
Some aspects define the style while others overlap other trends.
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to give up and feel sorry for yourself, because, most people tell you that recovery is impossible, and, that there is nothing wrong with you! This double message is common for persons with CFS-ME.
Haircuts for scene guys, can include hair with choppy, jagged layers works strikingly as well as combinations of colors with several hues. The sideburns can be left long and pointed forward and front bangs can be swept or waxed forward.
Scene haircuts for girls, include numerous styles using choppy, blunt cut layers, eye skimming bangs, poufy volume crown, and coon extensions just to name a few. Scene hairstyles are versatile because of the various styling methods that can be done to switch the look of the hair from day to day, or, the colors that are added to make the hairstyles very stylish. These can include advanced coloring techniques like paneling or tone on tone. Scene hairstyles can include many steps like teasing the crown and tying up some sections, teasing the locks for an unkept appearance and adding volume to the crown, and rocking the skimming fringe.
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Famous:
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to go to every clinic, specialist, or researcher who has treated someone with symptoms like your own, and, has been written about in a popular magazine or newspaper. If they are mentioned in a documentary or an actor or politician have recounted how they were saved by such an entity, you are on your way to the phone.
The reality that someone powerfully visible and glamorous, at least to you, is recommending a product, therapy, or protocol is enough justification for you. You assume that there is integrity between the persona you know as the celebrity and the statements they are making. You assume that what has been a great benefit for them, should also be for you. You suspend your ability to think and lazily set aside any opportunity you could take to do the research and get an understanding of the problems you are seeking to cope with.
Here is a simple recommendation made by someone you believe you connect with ... even though you may know nothing about them except what is in the media, and even though you have never had a conversation with them. The facts include that celebrities often have similar difficulties to your own, if they have CFS-ME, and, that many will promote whatever they are paid to speak on behalf of. The reality is that no one has clearly researched WHAT is in the Package of illness you have and no one has a personalized protocol for YOU, or, why would you be following someone else as a clone of you?
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Poverty or Ghetto Hairstyles.
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to go to your government service medical doctor for the answers. You want everything covered by the premiums you and others are forced to pay. You accept that you will likely never be correctly diagnosed and that only inexpensive irrelevant tests will usually be run. You accept that you may have to wait weeks between appointments and likely wait a month or 3 before seeing any of a number of specialists. All other resources are avoided because they are private pay. An exception is when you go to a private pay practitioner, and try and negotiate the charge.
Ghetto hairstyles have spread from the poverty-stricken inner-city area. Adding hair extensions or weaving the hair to create volume and lengthen one's natural hair if it is too short, are common tactics. Pulling the hair up and forming a bun or using hair gel to hold the sides is also an option. The hair beneath can be curled or straightened to give it a different form at the same time. Some effects generally last till the next shampoo wash. One can also tease the hair up on to one's head for an additional attempt to make the hair look unkempt. Odd colors have been popularized, again to enhance a look of boldness, drama, flash .. showing that you are doing something, to fit in. Accessories are also often added including brightly colored pins, clips, and ribbons.
Being BOLD is a Recovery option seldom chosen, for the person with CFS-ME. The person who does choose this will make dramatic efforts to visit friends and relatives and go to social outings at which they will succumb to their symptoms. Collapsing, fainting, going to the local hospital emergency room, dropping glasses or food, and swooning .. are all ways attract attention. The risk is that one may be hastily rejected and ostracised by those you wish to receive attention from. Even if one does receive attention and encouragement, it is at the expense of sucking up the positive energies of those around. If options suggested by those present are not tried, one additionally risks creating a destructive image of oneself in those one seeks attention from. Drama IS remembered. Even if one does recover later, most everyone will remember you as a loser and building a new persona may be near impossible.
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Sedu hairstyles are created with Sedu flat hair iron.
They are promoted as sleek, sexy, classy straight hairstyles that work well with any hair type.
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to purchase or rent numerous devices which are promoted as capable of healing you. The hope is that if you can just find the best ONE, you will recover without the likely complexity of an assortment of supplements, therapies, tests, specialists, and other costly options. If you have something simpler than CFS-ME, you may be fortunate to choose a health optimization device that really can support your recovery in a significant way.
It's easy with the Sedu Flat Irons to wear a straightened hairstyle exactly the same as some of your favorite celebrities do. This allows you to often fit into popular groups of people who you may or may not share attitudes or beliefs with beyond a fantasy, often involving popularity, fun, happiness, power, and money. A good straightener straightens, smoothes and tames frizzy or difficult hair without damaging it. Your straight hair can end up looking silky, smooth and shiny. For CFS-ME, you can improve your health to a point where you LOOK better than you feel.
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In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to go to your grocer for the answers. They may suggest some foods which could lessen your symptoms. They may know someone to refer you to. Often, they will have a simple and quick preditable answer: They don't know. The cost is low. The time spent is short. The answer is straightforward. For this haircut, there is NO style, other than short and straight.
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Short hairstyles are easier to take care of and style than many other styles.
In the field of healthcare, this is similar to choosing to read all of the medical research you can find access to on your symptoms, for the answers. You read medical journals, health store magazines, alternative care reviews, informative websites, and new discovery books. You attend seminars on issues of apparent similarity to your requirements. YOU decide WHO to go to for WHAT and WHEN and for HOW LONG. You are likely to irritate a lot of potential care givers, many of whom could not help you. If you misunderstand the info you find, you can waste a lot of time and money. YOUR success will depend upon the Accuracy of your means of testing, and, their relevancy.
Hair takes a while to grow out.
Changing hairstyle lengths can be difficult, especially changing from short to long. Short hair provides for a simplicity of style, and, a minimum of effort to keep clean, dry, and style. It enables one to have clear lines of control over one's lifestyle with a minimum of interference from hair issues.
Punk haircuts are about Rebellion.
They are a strike back against control ... a kind of refusal to be controlled and to control who one is going to be controlled by. It is a statement of controlling oneself and expressing a disagreement with what one has experienced the status quo to be, usually a projection on the rest of society of the values expressed by one's parents or wider family. Like most rebels, the objective is to receive what others have and that is refused for oneself: Power, Authority.
What KIND of Hair do YOU have?
Most of the time, people are oblivious to what kind of hair they have. If you are unaware of the major differences, how can you choose ANYTHING that is Relevant for health! That is like going to a restaurant and ordering the single Special, just because it is what the chef wants to focus on for the day. No taste preferences, no sensitivities, no assimilation-blood type considerations, no meat-vegetarian choices, no time-of-day sense. Just, "I'll have whatever it is."
If you have fine hair, your hair is soft, light, flat, soft to the touch, and tends to be shiny. Fine hair is also much more fragile than other types. Be careful, especially if you have long hair with any procedure that manipulates the hair a lot: coloring, perms, washing, knoting, weaving. You may choose to use products which indicate that they will add "volume". Adding chemical products may further damage your hair. Using too much heat during drying or having it razor cut can also damage it. Damage equals leaving it more difficult to look somewhat orderly and intentional. Shorter cuts are often easier to maintain than longer ones.
Medium hair is thought to be the more prevalent.
This kind of hair tends to be thicker than fine and can take more heat, chemicals, perms, gels. It will hold a style easier and longer than other kinds. For this reason, you can try more styles with it than the others without the fear of running into problems that cost you more time, effort, and good comments.
Coarse hair is rough, heavy, and feels dry.
This kind of hair tends to lose the style you put it into. Conditioners will help to hold it in place. A longer length will also tend to add more stability/weight so that the hair does not more so much or so easily.
You can FORCE your hair into whatever style you want.
Doing so gives you your preference for the short-term, yet, it may lose the style and look messy earlier than if you had chosen something more Relevant. You may get the "Look" you want today, yet it may frustrate and annoy you that you must devote so much time to it every day if you are not to look like you just got out of bed after a sleepless night. You DO have Choice.
The question is:
Does your HAIR control your Lifestyle,
do YOU control your Lifestyle, or,
do YOU use the style of your hair to facilitate your Lifestyle
(which would then often be a style that would project your Lifestyle)?
6. Kabelo: A Gift.
Kabelo means "Gift" and is a name sometimes given to children.
It is from an African language and is more common in South Africa and Botswanna than elsewhere.
Consider the following Quote.
Divine Plot To Block TV Miracles Exposed
http://www.naijarita.com/2006/god-blocking-tv-miracles
January 5th, 2006, Naijarita News, Nigeria
Anointed Pastor Chris Oyakhilome of Christ Embassy has exposed a plot by the Almighty God and his angels to put a stop to the broadcasting of miracles on Nigerian television. During the shocking expos', he narrated how all efforts to get his miracles verified have been mysteriously frustrated.
When the NBC announced a ban on the broadcasting of unverified miracles on Nigerian TV stations, Pentecostal Christians were not bothered because they knew for sure that miracles performed by their pastors were genuine and would easily be verified by doctors and investigators in their various congregations.
Yet more than 2 years later, the men of God have not yet been able to present even one substantiated miracle. They have been forced to stop broadcasting their miracle services, healing meetings, and power-packed crusades because, as Pastor Chris revealed, the Lord Almighty has been hindering them.
He went on to give us various examples of cases in which God's interference prevented his team of investigators from being able to prove the genuineness of some previously televised miracles:
- The case of a man who was raised from the dead during a crusade. After collecting a generous amount of money to rebuild his newly-regained life, he and his friends never came back to the church. God must have made them ungrateful for their miracle or forgetful so they didn't remember the address of the church.
- The case of the blind whose eyes were opened, the lame who walked, or deaf and dumb whose tongues were loosed and ears opened during atmosphere for miracles. Their family members were unable to remember that they had suffered for years under the curse of blindness, lameness, or deafness and dumbness for years before their miraculous release by the Holy Spirit.
- The case of a woman who was miraculously healed of HIV/AIDS in healing school. When investigators visited her house to retrieve the HIV test she took prior to her healing, they couldn't find it. Because God had hidden it in a safe place. When they visited her doctor, God erased his memory so he couldn't remember ever having tested the woman for HIV!
Pastor Chris says he knows for sure that Satan is not to blame for these cases, because 'Satan cannot operate in the presence of men of faith who are walking in the anointing ' hallelujah!' All the miracle investigators are spirit-filled born again lieutenants in God's army and therefore nothing but an act of God could prevent them from accomplishing their mission.
However, it is difficult to understand why God is working so hard to discredit his own miracles. Perhaps God is afraid that almost all of those who witness the verified miracles on TV will get converted and heaven will be over-crowded? No one knows for sure.
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We all like and want gifts.
They may be a symbol of acknowledgement for something we have done (thankfulness) and others have found beneficial. Gifts may be freely given (appreciation) to us because of our relationships .. from one spouse to another, friend to friend, parent to child, or other significant person to us. They may also be from persons who know us through their respect for and association with others who are in a relationship to us: parents, teachers, managers, .... The gift (of obligation) is given to us as if it were being given to the person close to us. It honors us by way of them (expectation). It says that we are important because someone else who IS important recognizes or is repsonsible for us. Then, there is the gift (bribe) which is given to us with the suggestion that we will use our personal power of authority, money, persuasion, or some other skill -- to enact something definitive and positive for the gift-giver or entity they respresent.
Politics is proposed as a Gift to those it serves to govern.
In return for the allegiance and financial support of the governed, the government is charged with devising and enforcing common standards for the benefits of the majority. That is, services are paid for by the total with the commitment that such services, like healthcare, will be available and effective, as well as efficient, for those who would otherwise become a lost (dead/unemployed/criminal) contributor to the political whole. Like insurance, the payment of revenue into a fund, by everyone, enables members to receive a gift when their need for assistance is confirmed.
Corruption is always easy and encouraged in dependant relationships.
Political services (national defence, health care, roads, lawmaking, business fairness) are always carried out through bureaucracies. That is, people working in offices under the direction of routines devised for the benefit of the customer-member, provide a service. Extensive rules and regulations are added to the operation of these services in the expectation that if something is detailed sufficiently, there can be no misunderstanding. If everyone understand what is to be acted out, for what payment, and when .. how can there be any possibility for a misuse of the funds and trust of the member by those given the responsibility to provide the service? Corruption IS such an error.
Corruption is when stated values and expectations are replaced by others which sabotage the first set. My taking extra money or government materials for myself to acknowlwedge how important I am, beyond what I am being paid, is Theft. Yet, too often, there has been little opening for an office worker or a political representative to challenge the desire of the public with the desire of personal need. There has been little availability for a open employment market for government employees. Seldom do we hear a clerk or a senator tell the public who pays them to "pay me more, or I will work elsewhere." The employee knows that their job, regardless of its challenges and requirements, provides a level of security and routine seldom available through self-employment or commercial employment.
Political Gifts are services we receive without a close accounting.
We don't want to receive dozens of pages of charges from our hospital anytime we receive treatment there. We don't want to compete with other businesspersons who, either intentionally or in ignorance, offers products and service to the market for lower prices than we can make or provide the items. The customer does not make the commercial item unless they are self-sufficient. That means they are unaware of the risks involved in development, the costs involved in production, and the charges levied for distribution, storage, sales, and delivery. Without this awareness of reality, the customer is limited in their choices to Quality and Cost. If the quality of one item is, or is assumed to be, near that os a second supplier, the buyer often is attracted to the lower priced item. Why should they pay more than other people and put themselves at a disadvantage?
Buyer Ignorance is a major invitational factor that encourages bribery.
Once you accept the Absolute unquestioned Authority of another person over matters influencing YOUR life, you provide them with Trust, beyond negotiation, acknowledgement, and justification.
7. Values: Mine, Ours, Yours.
Value determines Investment.
We invest our time, money, effort according to the value we assess is present, possible, or certain for us. That Value may be material, spiritual, idealistic, emotional, sensual, or imaginary. There is no judgement here as to which is better or worse for YOU. The decision rests with you. It can be changed. Yet if you do not know WHAT you value most or what that value is, it becomes difficult to maintain, rebuild, or take strength from it. By knowing that there are different forms and types, you can retain hope when it seems that one form has faded away or been lost. To assume that there IS only what we have been taught or what we know, is to risk hopelessness .. when that Value is fragmented. CFS-ME has a way of doing that.
Material:
I have known persons who had material wealth before acquiring CFS-ME.
To survive and support the desire for recovery, they had to sell their home, their furnishings, liquidate much or all of their investments, give away clothing, buy second had garmets, move to rented accommodation, and, diminish their meal choices from the exquisite to the simple and plain. ALL of these changes were experienced as sacrifices, losses, and injustices. It was the only way to afford daily food and accommodation together with many tens of thousands of dollars of therapy visits, supplements, and healthcare devices.
The alternatives to Change:
seclusion, depression, further degradation of health, homelessness, death.
Spiritual:
I had spiritual CALM before acquiring CFS-ME.
To survive and support the desire for recovery, they had to sell their home, their furnishings, liquidate much or all of their investments, give away clothing, buy second had garmets, move to rented accommodation, and, diminish their meal choices from the exquisite to the simple and plain. ALL of these changes were experienced as sacrifices, losses, and injustices. It was the only way to afford daily food and accommodation together with many tens of thousands of dollars of therapy visits, supplements, and healthcare devices.
The alternatives to Change:
seclusion, depression, further degradation of health, homelessness, death.
Idealistic:
I have known persons who had social and philosophical rules for life, before acquiring CFS-ME.
To survive and support the desire for recovery, they had to sell their home, their furnishings, liquidate much or all of their investments, give away clothing, buy second had garmets, move to rented accommodation, and, diminish their meal choices from the exquisite to the simple and plain. ALL of these changes were experienced as sacrifices, losses, and injustices. It was the only way to afford daily food and accommodation together with many tens of thousands of dollars of therapy visits, supplements, and healthcare devices.
The alternatives to Change:
seclusion, depression, further degradation of health, homelessness, death.
Emotional:
I have known persons who had emotional attachments before acquiring CFS-ME.
Many of the THINGS and PEOPLE in their lives had become justifications for their existence, their identity, and their
To survive and support the desire for recovery, they had to divorce their husband, sell their home, their furnishings, give away clothing, move to rented accommodation, and, diminish their meal choices from the exquisite to the simple and plain. ALL of these changes were experienced as sacrifices, losses, and injustices. It was the only way to not be daily denied for their sickness, to continue to receive demands for their service towards others,
The alternatives to Change:
seclusion, depression, further degradation of health, homelessness, death.
Sensual:
I was a person who had sensual glorification before acquiring CFS-ME.
To survive and support the desire for recovery, they had to acknowledge and understand their almost immediate desensitization from the physical. This change was experienced as a loss of identity as a person capable of sensual and sexual experience and sharing. It took a very long time to understand that this might be temporary and not permanent. Accepting that one could not feel or appreciate a caress, a kiss, a sense of arousal, an erection, or a lust .. for beauty, taste, scent, or possibility .. was dehumanizing. The Faith that these senses and abilities could return became fundamental to retaining Hope and action.
The alternatives to Change:
seclusion, depression, further degradation of health, suicide.
Imaginary:
I have known persons who had imaginary values before acquiring CFS-ME.
They trusted that the medical community could always return their health to them, quickly. They trusted that scientists and experts would always have the answers needed to maintain their material preoccupation. They trusted that the legal and government structures would always protect their savings and stabilize any risk in their investments.
To survive and support a desire for recovery, they had to accept Reality, Responsibility, and Relevancy. ALL of these changes were experienced as shocking, depressing, confusing. It was the only way to take actions against the status quo denial of their sickness, and its continual degrading responses to the intent to recover.
The alternatives to Change:
passivity, acceptance, further degradation of health, rejection, death.
RECOVER by being able to accept your values as CHOICES which are only worth your Investment as long as they are Relevant. If they bring you energy robbing emotions and memories, they are making you, or keeping you, more ill than you could be. A few energy robbing value responses include these:
- righteousness (Why Me?),
- guilt (What have I done?)
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8. Water: Principles and Strengths
RELEVANCY
What do I Feel?
What can I Do?
Who believes me?
Who can I Trust?
Who comes to see me?
Who stays with me?
What are my Assets?
What is available to me?
What is my source of Income?
Which answers yield results?
How much are my Expenses?
Intentions support movement.
Change is Possible
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RECOVERY
I can learn to be Calm
I can learn to Believe in Myself
I can learn to Make new connections
I can learn to be Assertive
I can learn to Share
I can learn to Join In
I can learn to Listen
I can learn to Help Others
I can learn to Encourage
I can learn to Discern
I can learn to Persevere
I can learn to Recover
I can learn to Get Guidance
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