File: 07 - Seminar 1

When and Why dramatic changes and challenges may occur.

When you have the freedom to take self-direction over your awareness, your dignity, and the responsibility behind your choices, just going along for the ride in life is selling life short.

A. Addictions, Compulsions, Obsessions, and unhealthy Habits: being a Robot.

Balancing may result in a dissociation from friends, relatives, and a spouse.

1. Your behavior is no longer predictable, automatic, immature;
2. It is now difficult to manipulate and deceive you to benefit others;
3. You no longer support the unhealthy habits of others by joining in;
4. You are "too" compassionate, understanding, flexible, dynamic, assertive;
5. You are felt to be "too" strong of spirit, good, aware, self-directed, naive;
6. You are seen to be dangerous because you avoid fantasies and see reality;
7. You are not as frivolous, comic, stupid, spontaneous, or extreme as before.

Those who depend upon the unchanging quality of your energy-blocked stifled character will not thank you for bringing the challenge of an example of a growing personality into their narrow and comfortable lazy environment.

B. Being a Loser: anxious, aggressive, passive, depressed, harboring toxic shame.

Balancing may free you from limiting behaviors and attitudes: a weak spirit.

1. You are no longer a perfectionist, workaholic, demanding participant;
2. You are more than just extrovert or introvert by custom and expectation;
3. No longer do must you play roles of aggressive authority or passive submission;
4. Your constant worry, doubt, procrastination, denial and avoidance have gone;
5. You want to make your own goals; the expectations of others are not enough;
6. Fear of deception and manipulation no longer force you to be loud or silent;
7. Aware of your real self and others, you no longer feel alone and abandoned.

Your past constant and reactive behavior comforted others with an assumption that they knew you ... your capabilities, limits, hot buttons, weaknesses, shared habits and prejudices. You were defined, stable, predictable, able to be manipulated. Their confidence in your INABILITY to change and grow reaffirms their own weakness in avoiding the risk of personal growth.

They see commitment as co-dependency and blind loyalty.
Your requests now for justice and truth and relevance may be seen as aggressive and disloyal. They have offered acceptance for your moral self-denial. A strong moral sense may now threaten some past relationships.

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