PINE relates to the soul qualities of Regret, Forgiveness, and Humility.

Patiently listening to others who are now experiencing similar problems to one's own past conflicts and challenges and sharing one's personal findings, solutions and resolutions with the other is an example of a Positive Pine state. Sometimes, just the presence of the positive Pine person can bring calm, reflection, and revelation to the troubled person. This is because the guilt bound negative Pine person most needs an empathic listener who will not be shocked by nor react to the presence and state of the negative Pine person with questions which increase defensiveness and rationalizations which increase denial.

The perfectionist who is never satisfied with the amount or quality of their own efforts and continually berates themselves for any error, oversight, ignorance, weakness, desire, feeling, or lack of subservience to others -- is a negative Pine type of person. Such toxic shame can never be resolved because the individual holds themselves responsible for developments beyond their control or ability. Such imperfections are not the result of intended actions but are the outcome of efforts made in a process requiring abilities and awareness that can only develop from repeated attempts and a growing awareness and co-ordination of one's involvement.

To be human is to be born helpless and grow evermore to self-sufficiency and competency. That we have a right to exist and are capable of peace and harmony is evidenced by the fact that we are alive. Other species and individuals which and who have fallen short of that capability have become extinct or been rejected from participation. It is not our errors which give us opportunity to improve but the conflicts we feel as a result of those errors. Such conflicts indicate a separation between what we want to do, and have tried, and what the outcome has been. Such are conflicts between capability and ability; between planning and performance. Acknowledging one's mistakes enables one to consider the significance of the error and construct, through imagination and integration, changes which may provide improvement. Compassion and forgiveness for oneself enables one to focus on the trend rather than the step.

Wanting to be loved by someone who rejects you is a sure way to develop a negative Pine expectation. Being told that god loves you yet you are the weakest, dumbest, lowest lifeform before that god is a centuries long ritual of some authoritarian religions. Being rejected by other people because of your hair or skin color, your size in height or weight, your gender or family income status, your race or education level or grade --- and not understanding why that should be a critical element of acceptance, is another predictable pattern. Gossip which ridicules or defames a person for something they are innocent of, yet they are rejected, is another tactic. An extension of this is to have someone who you like, respect, or feel amorous towards tell you that they never want to be near you again -- either in words or actions, yet, they don't tell you WHY! In all cases of negative Pine pattern origin, the victim is made to feel rejected, without reason. The trauma of loss and the confusion of assumed blame encourage the victim to feel GUILT.

Guilt without an awareness or understanding of the reason imposed by someone who is more powerful because of your respect for them is both a form of toxic shame and evil. It makes you hate yourself for existing, feeling, wanting, doing, thinking. Unable to negotiate a penance for this imposed sentence nor even to directly address the authority involved, it becomes readily apparent that one is deserving of nothing good. One has been close to perfection and somehow messed up the chance for everlasting JOY. How depressing! Perhaps if I show my worth through sacrifice and emotional slavery I can be redeemed. I waste my energies making my day worse than it began. Yet to take such a position is to deny the greatness of the God who created me. It is to take the god-like authority of the accuser upon ourselves and victimize ourselves. At that moment we make ourselves the god which damns us. By rejecting ourselves, we reject the LOVE of the God who gave us CHOICE and gave us a physical nature -- which can only be an imperfect combination.

I DO make mistakes and I choose to learn from them and to move forward. I put my mistakes behind me with the improvements I display in the Present. I accept the Love of God as the Grace which continually gives me the opportunity to continue to live and be involved with my Mission on the basis of my humility to accept responsibility, my reverence to ask Spiritual Guidance for the best directions, and my awareness of the reality around me. These elements keep me in touch with the relevant and with the spiritual. I prepare myself in physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health so as to do my best daily. I assert myself where others attempt to victimize. I ask what the reasons are that they should feel so insecure that they need to gossip and lie to make me or others rejected for their acceptance. I demand truth and am prepared to accept responsibility for any wrongs I have truly done. I make my day better as it unfolds. I am in the positive Pine state.